You’ll Get Through This: 7 Ways to Nurture Yourself During Tough Times

It’s always amazing to me that when you’re in the midst of something difficult, as badly as you want it to be over, it feels like things will never be different. Your body will always be in pain, your heart will always feel broken and closed, your anxiety defines you and will never transform.

 

Then you come out on the other side and realize, oh, that was temporary. Now it’s far away from you and almost hard to remember how it felt to be in the storm. Maybe in those moments you pause to be grateful for your serenity, or you just continue on as though nothing were ever different.

 

The point is, no matter what you’re going through, you will get through it. Here are some ways of doing so with grace and love. Taking these steps may not provide immediate relief, but they may help you see things from a different perspective and perhaps even feel good in the midst of difficult circumstances.

 

1)    Remember that everything is temporary. Everything. Life is always changing and transforming. Some things last much longer than others, but nothing stays the same forever.

 

2)    Be present, even with the shitty stuff. When you try to avoid your difficulties, or wish them away, you make them last longer. Similarly, when you are not present in the peaks of the waves, the troughs seem deeper and bleaker. Be where you are.

 

3)    Talk to your pain. Whether it’s physical, emotional, or spiritual, there are messages that wish to be heard. Write and give it a voice, ask what’s wrong, reassure it that you are there and listening. In a recent episode of heartache, I got into the habit of gently rubbing my heart. It was so soothing.

 

4)    Take time everyday to be consciously grateful. I write out at least three things I am grateful for everyday, and often they are the difficulties. I am grateful for them because they are teaching me about myself, helping me to heal wounds, and to let go of unhealthy situations, habits, and relationships. Of course I express gratitude for the goodies too.

 

5)    Surrender it all, even the goodies. I also write out at the end of each day 3 things I am surrendering. When I first started this exercise, I would write down only the things that were challenging. Now I write down the things I am celebrating as well. This, for me, symbolizes my trust in God and the divine flow of life. I’m not fighting it. I am grateful for it all, and handing it all over.

 

6)    Do something about it. A painful experience might be your opportunity to try something new, like acupuncture, energy healing, a different style of yoga, or Thai yoga massage! Maybe a candid conversation with a trusted friend is in order. When was the last time you saw your therapist? If you are able to surrender (see #5) you are guided towards your path of healing, which keeps life moving, evolving, and flowing with greater ease.

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7)    Reach out. When you’re not your brightest, it’s easy to isolate because you don’t want to be a downer. The people that love you want to help and support you though. There’s a big difference between complaining and sharing your honest struggles. The former is draining and unproductive while the latter can actually be quite energizing and uplifting. Be honest, open, and vulnerable. It’s a beautiful thing! You’re not alone.

 

If you’re going through a hard time right now, know that you are loved and supported. Know that this too shall pass. Be with it, have faith, and know that you will get through and in some way, be transformed as a result.

 

Take action now:

1)    In the comments below, share how you get through the challenges life presents.

2)    Forward this to someone in your life that’s struggling. They need your support.

 

With love,

Sasha

 

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Published by Sasha Marie Stone

Happiness Engineer at Automattic, work-from-home wellness expert, life coach, and dog mom.

4 thoughts on “You’ll Get Through This: 7 Ways to Nurture Yourself During Tough Times

  1. Good morning Sash, My absolute life rafts in my life, are yoga and bodywork. Every time I get on my mat, I find peace, if only for the time I am on the mat. but the more I am there, the more perspective that seems to radiate outward. Getting body work done is crucial. We store and hold our emotions in our bodies, so if we are going thru a rough time and only ever address our minds, we are still leaving a primary component out of the equation. Although talking, and processing are important, if we don’t actually release the emotion from our bodies, we cannot heal and move forward. Thank you for your writing. I hope that you are well and wish that I could give you a massage today!

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  2. Great advice, Sasha. #2 particularly resonates with me… being present and aware, observing everything I can about what’s happening inside my mind and body while going through a rough time, is the key. Then everything just becomes fascinating, even the challenges. Life becomes one big workshop.

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  3. This is so WONDERFUL AND INSPIRING!!!!!!! I have learnt to practice number 2 it is so true!! All five steps will be so helpful, thank you Sash xoxo

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  4. Hey Sasha! Thank you for this! I know you’re going through your own valley right now instead of your peak, so that is so wonderful that through your newsletters your vulnerability helps others like myself.

    I’ve been going through a tough time myself – focusing on the “lack.” Then I went and got sick this weekend – talk about lack! When you don’t have your health it’s even worse. I think it was God showing me a sign to be grateful & stop complaining so much. I had a miserably sick Sunday. It was awful. Then I started to feel better by Monday and Tuesday, and now I’m just dealing w/ the exiting cough.

    I think your newsletter is a good reminder to get back on the gratitude & surrendering train. I know my faith can waiver a lot when times are really shitty. However through prayer & faith I’ve weathered those storms, and I know I have a lot to be grateful for. Thank you for this. 🙂

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