It’s always amazing to me that when you’re in the midst of something difficult, as badly as you want it to be over, it feels like things will never be different. Your body will always be in pain, your heart will always feel broken and closed, your anxiety defines you and will never transform.
Then you come out on the other side and realize, oh, that was temporary. Now it’s far away from you and almost hard to remember how it felt to be in the storm. Maybe in those moments you pause to be grateful for your serenity, or you just continue on as though nothing were ever different.
The point is, no matter what you’re going through, you will get through it. Here are some ways of doing so with grace and love. Taking these steps may not provide immediate relief, but they may help you see things from a different perspective and perhaps even feel good in the midst of difficult circumstances.
1) Remember that everything is temporary. Everything. Life is always changing and transforming. Some things last much longer than others, but nothing stays the same forever.
2) Be present, even with the shitty stuff. When you try to avoid your difficulties, or wish them away, you make them last longer. Similarly, when you are not present in the peaks of the waves, the troughs seem deeper and bleaker. Be where you are.
3) Talk to your pain. Whether it’s physical, emotional, or spiritual, there are messages that wish to be heard. Write and give it a voice, ask what’s wrong, reassure it that you are there and listening. In a recent episode of heartache, I got into the habit of gently rubbing my heart. It was so soothing.
4) Take time everyday to be consciously grateful. I write out at least three things I am grateful for everyday, and often they are the difficulties. I am grateful for them because they are teaching me about myself, helping me to heal wounds, and to let go of unhealthy situations, habits, and relationships. Of course I express gratitude for the goodies too.
5) Surrender it all, even the goodies. I also write out at the end of each day 3 things I am surrendering. When I first started this exercise, I would write down only the things that were challenging. Now I write down the things I am celebrating as well. This, for me, symbolizes my trust in God and the divine flow of life. I’m not fighting it. I am grateful for it all, and handing it all over.
6) Do something about it. A painful experience might be your opportunity to try something new, like acupuncture, energy healing, a different style of yoga, or Thai yoga massage! Maybe a candid conversation with a trusted friend is in order. When was the last time you saw your therapist? If you are able to surrender (see #5) you are guided towards your path of healing, which keeps life moving, evolving, and flowing with greater ease.
7) Reach out. When you’re not your brightest, it’s easy to isolate because you don’t want to be a downer. The people that love you want to help and support you though. There’s a big difference between complaining and sharing your honest struggles. The former is draining and unproductive while the latter can actually be quite energizing and uplifting. Be honest, open, and vulnerable. It’s a beautiful thing! You’re not alone.
If you’re going through a hard time right now, know that you are loved and supported. Know that this too shall pass. Be with it, have faith, and know that you will get through and in some way, be transformed as a result.
Take action now:
1) In the comments below, share how you get through the challenges life presents.
2) Forward this to someone in your life that’s struggling. They need your support.
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