That’s me! On July 24th I turn 34, and I am, at this moment, divorced, single, and childless. To some, that might sound incredibly depressing. And if I spent mental energy focusing on those things as defining factors in my life, I might too find it depressing. But I don’t. They are merely circumstances of my current reality.
My best friend for the past 20 years is in town visiting, celebrating my birthday with me. We often laugh in amazement over how different our lives are now than what we pictured them to be when we were teenagers.
As a young girl, when I envisioned my future, I was married with two kids before the age of 30, working at a corporate job where I had a lot of power and drove a fancy car. Why would I think that was my path? Well, my parents were married very young and had my brother and me before they were 30. I was very high achieving academically and to me that translated into working in an office and driving a nice car in adulthood.
Here are some of the things in my life I never imagined would be a reality for me, though in retrospect, I can see the clues that aligned to get me here:
- That I would be living and loving my life in Los Angeles: My parents are from Trinidad and I grew up in Egypt. I love sunshine!
- That I would be a yoga teacher, dedicated to fitness and wellness: PE was my worst subject in school but I used to secretly workout at home. I was a closet fitness freak.
- That I would be a Thai yoga massage therapist: One-on-one relationships in which I can make people feel nurtured and cared for were always strengths. Oh, and my best friend is Thai.
- That I would be an independent business owner: I was always bossy, liked things done my way, and never particularly liked being told what to do. Now I’m the boss, officially.
- That I would be passionate about meditation: I struggled with anger and anxiety, but wanted so badly for my chaotic interior to match my calm exterior. Now I have yoga and meditation.
If I were too attached to what teenager Sash thought life should look like, I wouldn’t be able to see all the amazing gifts in my life right now, and how well they align with who I am. It is great to have a vision for your life, but when you get too caught up on the specifics, you might miss out on what unfolds that is really good and really unique to your path. We know so little about ourselves in our youth, and nothing of the possibilities life can present. It is vital to stay in touch with your transforming desires and the life that is right for you in this moment.
Check in with yourself. Notice all the things in your life that are beautiful and amazing, that you could never have imagined, and celebrate those gifts! When you think about the future, reflect more on how you want to feel and what you want to experience rather than the hard details. Be open to your ever-changing path and embrace the twists and turns. Enjoy life!
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Lots of Love,
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