If you don’t listen to your body, it will demand to be heard

I’m a hypocrite. That’s right, I preach from the mountaintops the importance of self-care and that a hugely important part of it is making time to receive bodywork. Yet how often do I receive massages? Rarely my friend, very rarely.


It’s not because I don’t believe what I’m saying. It’s simply that I fall victim to the same excuses everyone else uses for not doing these things: time and money. But I don’t really believe in those excuses. We make time for what we want to make time for and we pay for what we enjoy. Every single day I pray, I meditate, I journal, I move my body and I eat nourishing food. Every week I plan out my schedule so that exercise, yoga, and dance are all there, food shopping is there, food preparation is there. Yet where is the bodywork? Where is the time to receive? Conspicuously absent.


For the past few weeks my body’s been groaning at me, like a low grumble from a grumpy dog. Soreness, tight muscles, and low energy were all present. I was hearing it but not really paying attention. Then on Friday night it snapped, major low back pain, difficulty moving with ease. Crisis time.

Thankfully, I had my emergency toolkit on hand, which includes an extensive yoga therapy practice, epsom salt bath with sprinkles of lavender and peppermint essential oils, and a rub down with my favorite essential oil muscle rub. Then the very next day I was on the massage table, receiving a fantastic Thai session in between my morning yoga client and my afternoon Thai yoga massage client.


While being worked on, my thoughts included,


“Wow, my body so needed this.”


“Not receiving massage is dumb.”


“From now on I’m here every two weeks. That is my declaration to myself.”


I use my body everyday for my work, yoga and Thai yoga massage. I also hike and do salsa dancing. My body is always doing. I must must must make time to receive in order to stay balanced, healthy, vibrant, and energetic. Otherwise, my body screams and makes me receive out of sudden necessity. But if my body’s not functioning, my life isn’t really functioning either. So why wait until the crisis?


Thailand 2011. So much Thai massage. So much happiness.
Thailand 2011. So much Thai massage. So much happiness.


You may not use your body in the same way I use mine, but you are still under stress, doing, and giving a lot. Bodywork relaxes your tired aching muscles, works out the kinks, and gets your energy flowing at an optimal level. It’s one of those things that if you don’t regularly receive it, you don’t know what you’re missing. Then when you get worked on, you can’t quite believe the difference that it makes in your body and your soul. It is essential. In fact, it is crucial to your wellbeing! I can’t tell you the difference in my energy level since my massage on Saturday. Huge shift! And my body feels happy again.


Your body does so much for you, day in and day out. Take time to replenish and experience the joyous ripple effects through your life.


Be well!


Love, Sasha




Published by Sasha Marie Stone

Happiness Engineer at Automattic, work-from-home wellness expert, life coach, and dog mom.

7 thoughts on “If you don’t listen to your body, it will demand to be heard

  1. Wish we could do a trade this very day! I am so guilty of what you say as well. I used to get body work once a week and I have fallen to the once a month or longer default. I am scheduling a session right now….Hope you are well girl.



    1. I would so love to do a trade with you goddess. No one around here does it like us. Glad to hear I’m not the only one slacking in this department! Enjoy your session. xox


  2. That picture of you in Thailand reminds me of a week I spent at a health spa where I got a massage every day. Even though I was working out like a fiend and totally sore, I felt amazing and I’m sure the daily massage had a lot to do with that. I am also scheduling a session right now… thanks for the reminder!


  3. I totally need to start having massages, I think I have had one,I don’t know how to go about finding a good place to go, any advice Sash?


    1. Hi Mamma, the best thing you can do is ask friends for recommendations. If that comes up empty, go to yelp.com and search for massage in your area. You can read reviews and get a feel for what the place and therapists are like. You might want to ask your esthetician for a recommendation as she would probably know people 🙂


  4. I like your story Sasha. Once a week I would go get an RMT. My intention is “be good to my body, and do something for my body that will help the mind and soul”. Nothing else is expected. I go for an hour for a massage and that’s it. Three weeks ago I sprained my ankle, and was in pain. I use a foot bath and added some Epsom salt with a peppermint. I figure this might help. I have some essential oils at home. No crisis for me, only positive healing.

    Enjoy your day,


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