Get out of your stuck place

There are times when life seems a little daunting, overwhelming, or downright depressing. I encounter people often that feel stuck where they are, even though they have some notion or idea of where they would rather be, or at least how they would rather feel. Yet there’s always a reason or justification to stay in the stuck place rather than forge ahead into unfamiliar territory.

 

Don’t worry, this is not an article about getting out of your comfort zone. Needing to take risks in your life is not groundbreaking news to anyone, so what’s holding you back?

 

I don’t know! I would have to know you much better to know why you aren’t creating a life that would be more joyful and satisfying for you. But this isn’t so much about the why as it is about the how. Here’s a valuable piece of advice for getting out of your stuck place and moving toward something new.

 

Take life in smaller chunks.

 

I believe what often stops you from trying a new way of exercising, eating differently, incorporating meditation in your life, exploring a new career path, learning a new skill… is that you look at your timeline in terms of the rest of your life, rather than a week, a month, 6 months, or a year. When the mind sees the rest of it’s life as the window to work in, you’ll either procrastinate because your time to take action appears never-ending, or you’ll sink deeper into depression because you don’t see your life as ever being different. It’s going to be this way forever!

 

That’s just downright silly. Whether it’s a little something you’re interested in trying, or a massive life change you want to make, determine a smaller period of time to work with and focus on that one thing. It’s far more digestible.

 

Here’s what I mean. After several years of being vegetarian, eating dairy products didn’t make much sense to me anymore, but I couldn’t imagine my life (my whole entire life!) without cheese. Impossible. So instead, I committed to 21 days of being vegan. 21 days was much easier to swallow than depriving myself of cheese for the rest of my life. Well, I kid you not, after 21 days I could care less if I ever ate cheese again and have been dairy-free ever since (going on 5 years now).

 

On a larger scale, I was feeling stuck about my plans for this coming year. I started toying with the idea of moving to a new city, yet the thought was too overwhelming for me to commit to. I’ve been in Los Angeles for over 10 years and built an incredible life. Thinking about starting again elsewhere with no clue what my life would look like was way too overwhelming. Therefore, I was stuck in indecision.

 

Instead, I asked myself, what would you like to focus on or achieve this year? Looking at one year of my life was far easier to cope with than looking at the rest of my life. So instead of packing up and transplanting myself to a new city, I created an intention this year to build up more of my online offerings, which will allow for more mobility and more travel. That felt not only doable, but also exciting and inspiring. You can follow my Year of Intent HERE and I encourage you to do the same so you can get support for your intentions too.

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Yes, of course we must live in the moment, but part of being fully alive in the present is feeling inspired by what we are moving toward in the future. Take a look at just one area of your life where you are feeling stuck, unsatisfied, or daunted and break it into a smaller segment of time. How can you take action toward this goal for the next 2 weeks or 2 years (whatever makes sense)? Write about it. How do you want your life to look and feel after that period of time? Where do you want to be? Notice how it makes you feel to envision those possibilities.

 

I’m here to support you! In the comments below, please share how you’re going to get out of your stuck place by looking at your project or plan in a smaller chunk of time.

 

And most exciting of all, I can now offer you one-on-one attention in these exact maters! Hope on over to my brand new service, SOUL-CARE SESSIONS, to learn more get moving toward a life of more joy, peace, and inspiration.

 

It’s time to get out of your stuck place!

 

Namaste,

Sasha

 

P.S. If you know someone that could use some un-sticking, please share!

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Published by Sasha Marie Stone

Happiness Engineer at Automattic, work-from-home wellness expert, life coach, and dog mom.

13 thoughts on “Get out of your stuck place

  1. Again, Sasha, I applaud you for your great insights and sharings. This new year I did not make resolutions but rather set intentions. The first is to simplify my life internally and externally. A real project which has already begun. Secondly, to stay open and tuned into the guidance of Source in my thoughts, words and actions. My daily mantras: “I am determined to see things differently” and “God is but love and therefore so am I”. Love to you ♥

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    1. Maya you are such an angel. Those are beautiful intentions for the new year. Being tuned into guidance is a huge one for me. Whenever I am feeling lost or frazzled I remember, I am guided, and with that comes peace and calm in knowing all is well. Thank you for sharing your mantras! So much love to you.

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    1. I am glad you are having that conversation with yourself Nep as I know your life can be quite overwhelming. You are doing so many amazing things. Always pause and reflect on what you have accomplished and brought to completion. Every step is a worthwhile moment. Love!

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  2. Well, I for one am very glad you decided not to leave LA! What you said about dairy really hits home. I’m not a vegetarian, but I’m lactose intolerant and have not been able to stop eating dairy entirely, love of cheese being one reason. Having let go of other addictions, I know that it can be a process of getting on and off the wagon until I’ve finally suffered enough. I’m committing to 30 days of no dairy. Thanks for the inspiration.

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      1. It’s Day 7 of my Dairy-Free Month and I am happy to report it’s going great so far. My husband ate a pizza today and the smell of the cheese was making me feel kind of queasy. I must be detoxing!

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      2. Just wanted to report that it’s Day 30 of my 30-day commitment of dairy-free eating — I did it! I think the secret to my success was (1) gradual progress — I’ve been slowly omitting dairy for months, (2) planning — finding recipes and places to eat that supported my diet, and (3) mindfulness. That’s the big one, because without being present to how my body feels, I never would’ve realized that omitting dairy was something I wanted/needed to do. Thanks again for the support!!

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      3. I’ll be honest, I was tempted to eat cheese a couple of times, but I knew that if I did, my stomach would not be happy. A few times I inadvertently ate things that had a small amount of dairy in them, and I felt the ill effects right away. But generally my body feels good and that’s the incentive. Also, another bonus from cutting out dairy is not eating a lot of stuff that’s not healthy anyway, like most desserts that I used to like. It’s an ongoing process, but these 30 days have been a huge step forward!

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      4. I think it’s great that you are paying close attention to the response of your body. When we eliminate certain things, their reintroduction can be so revealing. Glad you are feeling much better!

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  3. I believe whatever you want to accomplish you could plan. The things you can control, you can do!! I eat dairy, but also like lentil soup and soy milk. I would try Almond milk. I enjoy my quiet space at home in my apartment, and I appreciate the present moment. I think about myself and how will I accomplish things. I believe whatever you enjoy doing, just do it. I was in a bad situation, I felt stuck in a whole but I thought about how I could improve my situation. I moved forward, and glad I did. I like Sasha’s comment that “I am guided, and with that comes peace and calm in knowing all is well”. So true!

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