A mantra for how you want to be in the world

“Friendliness is my natural state of being,” is my favorite personal mantra these days.


I’ve adopted this mantra because I am on a mission to engage with as many people as possible every single day, especially strangers. It’s a personal challenge to myself, as historically I’ve been quiet, shy, and introverted.


You see, without realizing it, I’ve been saying a mantra for decades that has built up a wall around me, “I am quiet, shy, and introverted.”

Even though I love people and love interacting, my shyness has often given me the title of snob. I feel completely at ease in teaching situations and speaking in front of crowds. Yet sparking up conversation with strangers is not my forte. Until now!


I’m doing this for many reasons, but the main driving force is to grow my essential oil team with like-minded wellness advocates passionate about essential oils and excited to grow their own personal businesses. The only way to do this is to speak with people and see what makes them tick and what needs in their life they would like to fulfill. This kind of engagement takes practice and the only way to get better at something is to just keep doing it.

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Saying the mantra “Friendliness is my natural state of being” gives me confidence and energy. It gets me out of the mentality that it’s not natural for me to engage with strangers and actually gets me excited to make those connections. The result of course is that friendliness does become my natural state of being, because it’s the message I’m giving myself, and I’m doing it!


Whatever message you send yourself is how you present to the world.

If you are continually telling yourself things that cloak your magnetism and vibrancy, such as “I’m depressed. I don’t deserve that. I’ll never be able to do that. I’m fat. I’m lazy. I can’t be bothered,” then those are the exact feelings you are projecting outward. Whatever internal state you’re creating is reflected in your external character.


So change the dialogue! Try, “I am healthy and happy. I am grateful for everything. I am worthy of everything I desire. I am motivated and energized.” Decide how you want to be in the world and make that your mantra. Say it when you wake up in the morning. Repeat it mentally while you brush your teeth. Say it in the car. Say it before you walk into any work or social situation.

Notice how it makes you feel to turn down the volume on your unconscious mantras and turn on the loud speaker for your conscious ones. You’ll be amazed and delighted at the effect, I promise!


Take action now:

–       Think about what unconscious mantra it’s time to let go of and ask yourself, “How do I want to be in the world?” Write a mantra that reflects that energy and share it in the comments below.

–       Share this article with one person that could use a personal mantra makeover.


Lots of Love,



P.S. Interested in essential oils and/or becoming part of my team? Contact me HERE and let’s chat!

Published by Sasha Marie Stone

Happiness Engineer at Automattic, work-from-home wellness expert, life coach, and dog mom.

3 thoughts on “A mantra for how you want to be in the world

  1. I read somewhere that most people think of themselves as shy, and yet we all think we’re the only one! When I was in NY, a homeless guy in Central Park called me “gorgeous.” I was a little freaked out but mostly embarrassed, because I don’t think of myself that way. Then I realized that cliché about beauty being in the eye of the beholder is true. I don’t have to look like Marilyn Monroe to feel (and be) sexy. My new mantra: I am gorgeous, with or without makeup, no matter what I’m wearing, and whether or not a homeless man tells me so!


    1. Patty you are hilarious, and gorgeous! I definitely think so and I’m not a homeless man. Own it girl! Thanks for sharing your mantra. I love that you include “with or without makeup.” Lately I’ve been wearing way less of it (which is what I prefer when temperatures rise) and it feels great 🙂


  2. Sasha, you may have appeared shy (in the past) but you have always been warm, sweet, friendly and sharing whenever we have been together. Yes, let us all affirm that which we wish to be. Thought is definitely creative. Sending love ♥.


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