What’s your relationship with money? As I emphasized in my article about my love affair with YNAB, financial wellness is absolutely a part of overall wellness as money is a big part of our lives, our culture, our society, and our world. Money stress is so acute because the truth is money is something without which we simply can’t operate.
As with pretty much everything, your thought patterns really dictate the role that money plays in your life and how you feel about it. I was confused here for a while because I had no shame in saying that I really wanted money, lots and lots of money, because I’ve always felt I would be a terribly responsible and productive wealthy person. So what are these blocks that everyone keeps talking about? I don’t feel blocked, so why am I not feeling the flow?
I had three big revelations about my relationship with money recently and I’m already experiencing major shifts as a result. I want to share them with you in case they ring true for you too and help you to open the flow of your own financial abundance.
Block #1: Money is finite.
Ok, let’s put world economics aside for a moment and focus entirely on your bank account. Here’s what I mean. I get a big payment, or a few big payments, I see my bank balance and I feel happy and relieved. Yet in no time, I’m thinking about what happens when my account goes back down to zero. This is just part of being an independent business owner right? Massive fluctuations? Wrong.
The thought is contributing to the circumstance. If I always see my accounts as going back down to zero, they will. Instead I changed my mantra. Now when I look at my balances or receive a new payment, I thank and bless the money. I say to myself, “Money is always flowing and expanding in my life. There is no limit to my financial abundance.” Just saying it makes me feel fantastic! Since I started implementing this mantra, 2 new private yoga clients have come into my life.
Block #2: It’s wrong to get excited about or motivated by money.
Somewhere along the way I decided that being motivated by or getting excited about money was greedy or selfish. How sweet and silly! Money is a powerful tool and can do so much to create joy and implement change. Now I let myself get excited about money! If an opportunity presents itself to make some good cash, I say woo hoo! I do good work and I want that money.
My dance teacher, bless her heart, forwarded to me a flyer for a casting call for yoga people for a modeling gig. I’ve never been to a casting call and have no modeling experience. But guess what, the money sounded great for one day of work, and I met the requirements (well, most of them…).
So I let the money motivate and excite me, I took a leap of faith, and submitted my photos. The casting agent responded right away and gave me an appointment for the next morning. I auditioned today, and it was so much fun! I don’t know yet if I got it, but the experience was great, and I felt bold because I had never done anything like that before. And it’s exciting to think about that sweet check I might be getting in my bank account. Not only is it ok to get excited about money, I believe that excitement invites more money to come your way. Aren’t you more likely to spend time with people who are excited to be with you? If you’re excited about money, it will want to spend more time with you.
Block #3: Asking for money is shameful.
Oh goodness, so much pride where this was concerned. Finally I realized, asking for money is just a way of asking for help, and asking for help is awesome. If no one asked me for help I’d be out of a job! We are all on this planet together, and most people are incredibly generous and most people asking for help are not out to scam you. Sometimes you just have to ask in order to open the flow. If you’re having a tough time and you know someone that might be able to help you out, just ask. If they say no, there’s no harm done. If they say yes, you can experience the relief and joy of knowing everything’s going to be ok. And then you get to dream about what it will be like in the very near future when you’ll have the resources to be just as helpful to someone in a similar position as you were.
Here’s a great example that just popped up. As I was writing this article, I was on hold with the IRS (for over an hour the elevator music played in the background to accompany my writing). I was calling to ask if certain penalty fees could be waived. I didn’t have a great reason, but I thought it was worth asking. I greeted my customer service person pleasantly, did not talk her ear off with excuses, just asked very politely if my fees could be waived. As a result of that simple request, my amount owed went from $134.68 to $7.95 (the interest accrued). As my mom always says, “The answer is no until you ask!” Love it!!
Since identifying these blocks and implementing some serious mental shifts, amazing things are happening. I have new private yoga clients, I’m getting more teaching gigs, fun projects are materializing, I have ladies lined up for a brand new program soon to come your way, and I went to a casting call (!!!). Who knows what’s next? The best part is, I know everything is going to be fine. Everything is flowing. As long as I do my part to keep the blocks clear, take responsibility and take action it all keeps expanding.
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In the comments below, share how this article resonates with you. Where do you feel blocked in your financial wellness? What mental shift can you implement to allow money to flow more freely in your life?