The truth about the holidays

How are you feeling about the beginning of the holiday season? Excited? Anxious? Stressed-out? Depressed?


While this is no doubt a celebratory time and an opportunity to gather with loved ones, the truth is, it often evokes heavy feelings of sadness, loneliness, and holiday depression. With all the joy being shoved in your face (mostly by advertising), if you aren’t feeling in a joyful and loving space, it can make you feel bitter, and perhaps even a little sorry for yourself.


I understand! Ever since my divorce 7 years ago I have had maybe one or two Thanksgiving/Christmas/New Year seasons where I haven’t been dealing with some kind of heartache or trauma. With all the togetherness and family oriented festivities, this can feel like an incredibly lonely time of year, even if you are constantly surrounded by people.


The good news is, is doesn’t have to be. Here’s how…


Feelings of loneliness, bitterness, anxiety, and depression often stem from feelings of lack. For example…

  • I’m alone.
  • I’m broke.
  • I can’t afford presents.
  • I can’t afford a ticket home.
  • I don’t like my family.


However, if you can stop yourself and take some time to recognize the massive abundance you have in your life, the feelings of lack will be silenced by feelings of gratitude and love.


If you’re not used to this, it takes practice, but it’s so worth it.


Take stock of all you have. Start with the basics. A home to live in, a bed to sleep in, clean hot running water at your disposal, nourishing food. These are rare gifts that most of the world’s population is not able to enjoy. You are blessed!


Now, the loneliness factor, which is a big one. If you don’t have a loving partner to share the holidays with, try focusing on the people in your life you do have. Send them love, send them blessings. Call them, make plans, invite yourself over for the holidays! They love you and they don’t want you to feel alone. Make the effort to reach out, and receive the love that’s surrounding you.


When you focus on what you don’t have, you block the path for what you want to enter. Focus on the presence of wealth and love in your life on a daily basis, and both will expand exponentially.


Put it into practice:

  • Right now I want you to pull out a pen and some paper, and write down everything you are grateful for you in your life at this moment. Include things, people, activities, your career, and traits about yourself that you adore.
  • Every evening, before you go to bed, write down everything that happened that day that you are grateful for. This is a wonderful opportunity to celebrate your own personal wins and acknowledge all you are doing to make your life a wonderful experience.
  • Make a point over the holidays to express you love, gratitude, and appreciation to the people in your life. Don’t worry about presents! Putting your sincere thoughts in a loving card, or simply picking up the phone calling and telling someone how valuable they are in your life can be the most profound gift you can give. This is especially effective if you’re feeling down. Who can you express appreciation to? It will light them up, which will light you up. Win-win!


I am grateful for you. I am grateful for your trust and attention. I am grateful for your vulnerability and willingness to look deeply into your heart.


In the comments below, share gratitude for someone in your life. It is a blessing to them to express your appreciation, and a wonderful gift to your own heart and soul.


Sending so much love!



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Published by Sasha Marie Stone

Happiness Engineer at Automattic, work-from-home wellness expert, life coach, and dog mom.

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