Dare I admit that I am not the only positive influencer in this relationship?? It’s true! Close observation of my male counterpart has taught me some important life lessons that are becoming increasingly relevant in my life. So rather than keep them to myself, I thought I’d share them with you…
Number 1: One-at-a-time is better than everything-all-at-once.
Perhaps you already know that women are exceptional multitaskers and men, not so much. Generally I feel this works out in our favor, because as women we can be aware and conscious of so many things all at once. However, it gets a little sticky when EVERYTHING is a number one priority.
I consider myself a multi-passionate person and I adore challenges. I have big goals and dreams for life and I don’t necessarily like to wait patiently to do everything I want to do, learn everything I want to learn, and have a multitude of incredible experiences.
Some time ago my Aunt taught me an important lesson. “You can have it all but not all at once.” Even though I get that, I often forget it. And when I do, I actually end up holding myself back. Because there’s only so much one person can handle.
Watching my boyfriend has taught me the grace and sanity of moving through life’s bigger challenges and obstacles methodically. He goes step-by-step. He gets clear on his priority, sets his focus, and when he feels comfortable and ready, he’ll add on or move on to the next thing.
This used to frustrate me! How can he be so patient?? But then I realized my frustration was good old fashioned envy. While I felt like I had 5 different mountains to climb all at once, not making much headway on any of them, he was calmly forging ahead on one trail. And I see the progress he’s making and I take note.
This has helped me get super clear on my priorities. I see that if I take a more methodical, step-by-step approach, everything I want to do is completely possible, just not all at once!
Number 2: Do your research.
Oh lordy. It wasn’t until very recently that I came to the shocking realization that…I’m impulsive! When I catch a wave of inspiration and something sounds promising, I dive right in, full throttle.
Him: ”Who is this person? What have they done? Where’s the evidence?”
Me: “What?? I don’t know. But they’re right! I can feel it!”
Ugh. No. He’s right. Ask questions. Do your research. Do your due diligence. Even when you feel completely amped up and inspired, take your time when making major decisions and make sure that happy sparkly feeling remains even when you have a better understanding of what you’re getting into. It will save you a lot of time, energy, and money in the long run.
Number 3: Relaxing does not make you a bad person.
So this goes back to lesson number one. When you have 10 major items on your plate, downtime might not feel relaxing because there are so many things tugging at your conscience and asking for your attention.
I work hard and truly love me some downtime. Yet, in the moment it can be hard for me to arrive fully in that space because I keep thinking of all the other things I could be doing.
Sometimes you just have to make a choice to put it all aside and chill. Your body will thank you, your mind will thank you, your partner will thank you.
Which of these life lessons resonates most strongly with you? Share in the comments below.
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