How to do Forever

Forever can be a daunting proposition.   Nine years ago I got divorced. Although severing a forever commitment is heart-wrenching and stressful under any circumstances, it was a very happy decision for me. And I was convinced at that point that marriage was a completely useless institution. If you can be married without actually beingContinue reading “How to do Forever”

How to fall in love daily

Photo by Fabrizio Verrecchia on Unsplash   I’ve been thinking a lot about my ex-boyfriend. What if I hadn’t broken up with him? What if we were still together? How might my life and relationship be different?   These were questions that came up in a coaching conversation recently. Not out of loneliness, but out of restlessness andContinue reading “How to fall in love daily”

Trust that he can take care of himself

Photo by Toa Heftiba on Unsplash   One of the most precious gifts of partnership is being able to care for one another, daily and in times of need. I do the cooking, he does the washing up. He’s got the flu, I put cool washcloths on his forehead and make him soup. I’ve got cramps, he fillsContinue reading “Trust that he can take care of himself”

Take responsibility for your own joy

Part 1 of How to Love Your Relationship NOW (even if you think it sucks)   Women thrive on pleasure. It’s like fuel to our souls. When a woman is happy, when a woman is in her joy, everyone around her feels it. The air around her feels lighter and brighter, and she brings everyoneContinue reading “Take responsibility for your own joy”

How to Love Your Relationship NOW: Intro

Photo by Isaac Benhesed on Unsplash   Welcome to How to Love Your Relationship NOW (even if you think it sucks). This is for you if you’re in a relationship and find yourself feeling restless, unsatisfied, annoyed, or regularly pondering jumping ship. Yet, there’s something keeping you in place and you’re not ready to give up just yet.  Continue reading “How to Love Your Relationship NOW: Intro”

Two essential questions to ask before you say “I do”

Recently I caused a minor facebook frenzy with the following comment:   “It is my observation that marriage for my generation is irrelevant and represents the death of love. I have a few examples in my life that prove otherwise, which is beautiful and wonderful. What about you? What’s your experience?”   I will admit,Continue reading “Two essential questions to ask before you say “I do””