How to do Forever

Forever can be a daunting proposition.   Nine years ago I got divorced. Although severing a forever commitment is heart-wrenching and stressful under any circumstances, it was a very happy decision for me. And I was convinced at that point that marriage was a completely useless institution. If you can be married without actually beingContinue reading “How to do Forever”

How to fall in love daily

Photo by Fabrizio Verrecchia on Unsplash   I’ve been thinking a lot about my ex-boyfriend. What if I hadn’t broken up with him? What if we were still together? How might my life and relationship be different?   These were questions that came up in a coaching conversation recently. Not out of loneliness, but out of restlessness andContinue reading “How to fall in love daily”

Trust that he can take care of himself

Photo by Toa Heftiba on Unsplash   One of the most precious gifts of partnership is being able to care for one another, daily and in times of need. I do the cooking, he does the washing up. He’s got the flu, I put cool washcloths on his forehead and make him soup. I’ve got cramps, he fillsContinue reading “Trust that he can take care of himself”

Take responsibility for your own joy

Part 1 of How to Love Your Relationship NOW (even if you think it sucks)   Women thrive on pleasure. It’s like fuel to our souls. When a woman is happy, when a woman is in her joy, everyone around her feels it. The air around her feels lighter and brighter, and she brings everyoneContinue reading “Take responsibility for your own joy”

How to Love Your Relationship NOW: Intro

Photo by Isaac Benhesed on Unsplash   Welcome to How to Love Your Relationship NOW (even if you think it sucks). This is for you if you’re in a relationship and find yourself feeling restless, unsatisfied, annoyed, or regularly pondering jumping ship. Yet, there’s something keeping you in place and you’re not ready to give up just yet.  Continue reading “How to Love Your Relationship NOW: Intro”

The Power of An Apology

I’m sorry.   Those two words can mean the world to someone when said with deep sincerity.   Yet, we resist it all we can. We jump to our own defense. We justify our selfish actions and spiteful words in our minds and outloud. Anything to feel right and make someone else wrong.   AndContinue reading “The Power of An Apology”

Are you receiving what is good in your life?

Do you ever feel guilty about the good things in your life? Or how about when you’re receiving the support that you want, yet pushing it away at the same time? Sound familiar? I know because I do this to myself all the time! Yet thankfully I’ve learned to catch myself in the process. AndContinue reading “Are you receiving what is good in your life?”

How tidying can change your life

If you follow me on Social Media, you might already know that I’m having a fairly intense love affair with an author named Marie Kondo. She wrote two glorious little works of life changing art, The life-changing magic of tidying up and its essential companion Spark Joy.   For months I’ve been bypassing these books,Continue reading “How tidying can change your life”

The truth about the holidays

How are you feeling about the beginning of the holiday season? Excited? Anxious? Stressed-out? Depressed?   While this is no doubt a celebratory time and an opportunity to gather with loved ones, the truth is, it often evokes heavy feelings of sadness, loneliness, and holiday depression. With all the joy being shoved in your faceContinue reading “The truth about the holidays”

GETTING THROUGH HARD TIMES

Chatting with my mom on what gets us through hard times. I believe the BIG THREE for me are:   1) Having a huge heart. Injecting difficult situations with a lot of love is very productive. Sometimes that love means allowing yourself to get angry or sad, without judgment. Sometimes that means attending to yourContinue reading “GETTING THROUGH HARD TIMES”