How to do Forever

Forever can be a daunting proposition.   Nine years ago I got divorced. Although severing a forever commitment is heart-wrenching and stressful under any circumstances, it was a very happy decision for me. And I was convinced at that point that marriage was a completely useless institution. If you can be married without actually beingContinue reading “How to do Forever”

How to fall in love daily

Photo by Fabrizio Verrecchia on Unsplash   I’ve been thinking a lot about my ex-boyfriend. What if I hadn’t broken up with him? What if we were still together? How might my life and relationship be different?   These were questions that came up in a coaching conversation recently. Not out of loneliness, but out of restlessness andContinue reading “How to fall in love daily”

Trust that he can take care of himself

Photo by Toa Heftiba on Unsplash   One of the most precious gifts of partnership is being able to care for one another, daily and in times of need. I do the cooking, he does the washing up. He’s got the flu, I put cool washcloths on his forehead and make him soup. I’ve got cramps, he fillsContinue reading “Trust that he can take care of himself”

Take responsibility for your own joy

Part 1 of How to Love Your Relationship NOW (even if you think it sucks)   Women thrive on pleasure. It’s like fuel to our souls. When a woman is happy, when a woman is in her joy, everyone around her feels it. The air around her feels lighter and brighter, and she brings everyoneContinue reading “Take responsibility for your own joy”

How to Love Your Relationship NOW: Intro

Photo by Isaac Benhesed on Unsplash   Welcome to How to Love Your Relationship NOW (even if you think it sucks). This is for you if you’re in a relationship and find yourself feeling restless, unsatisfied, annoyed, or regularly pondering jumping ship. Yet, there’s something keeping you in place and you’re not ready to give up just yet.  Continue reading “How to Love Your Relationship NOW: Intro”

The Power of An Apology

I’m sorry.   Those two words can mean the world to someone when said with deep sincerity.   Yet, we resist it all we can. We jump to our own defense. We justify our selfish actions and spiteful words in our minds and outloud. Anything to feel right and make someone else wrong.   AndContinue reading “The Power of An Apology”

How social plans can benefit your self-care

You may be under the impression that self-care requires clearing your calendar, being alone, taking a bath, and getting a massage. Though all of those things are lovely and can definitely be rejuvenating, self-care is not only about isolation. The truth is, you are a social creature and making social plans in many ways can benefit self-care. TooContinue reading “How social plans can benefit your self-care”

Are you receiving what is good in your life?

Do you ever feel guilty about the good things in your life? Or how about when you’re receiving the support that you want, yet pushing it away at the same time? Sound familiar? I know because I do this to myself all the time! Yet thankfully I’ve learned to catch myself in the process. AndContinue reading “Are you receiving what is good in your life?”

3 Important Life Lessons (that I learned from my boyfriend)

Dare I admit that I am not the only positive influencer in this relationship?? It’s true! Close observation of my male counterpart has taught me some important life lessons that are becoming increasingly relevant in my life. So rather than keep them to myself, I thought I’d share them with you…   Number 1: One-at-a-timeContinue reading “3 Important Life Lessons (that I learned from my boyfriend)”

How tidying can change your life

If you follow me on Social Media, you might already know that I’m having a fairly intense love affair with an author named Marie Kondo. She wrote two glorious little works of life changing art, The life-changing magic of tidying up and its essential companion Spark Joy.   For months I’ve been bypassing these books,Continue reading “How tidying can change your life”